Your Puppy: Have Fun
While Fixing the "Naughtiness Factor"
by: Marc Goldberg Rowdy little children and
naughty little puppies have so much in common! Let's learn from the human example, so we
can quickly and gently redirect puppies away from naughtiness, toward great and fun
behaviors.
Article:
I sat trapped on the airplane, hurtling toward Orlando, strapped into my seat, some 30,000
feet above ground. I say trapped because my seat, my entire row even, was
constantly shaken, bumped and tossed by a pair of blond haired, angelic looking little
monsters in the row in front of me.
Michael, twelve, and his brother, eight, found relief from boredom in the only way they
knew how
by fighting, wrestling and annoying everyone for three rows in all
directions.
At first, I, too, was irritated by the little blond cretins. But as their father finally
erupted out of his seat to threaten the boys with bodily harm, I began to smile. I nearly
laughed in fact. Not because the boys were finally getting a stern talking to. But because
of the image that came to me.
Suddenly, the kids reminded me of a pair of blond Golden Retriever puppies, happy,
rowdy
and completely out of control. Michael and David, lacking any direction from
their parents, defaulted to known behaviors on that flight. They tore it up, from
the floor up.
Dad yelled at the children in that low, angry tone well bred parents use when what they
really want to do is scream out loud at their kids in the Walmart. And he scared them.
Most of coach was grateful. But the good effects from that dressing down were all too
temporary. My seat began to rock and roll once again. The puppiesI mean the
kidsdefaulted back to standard boy behaviors.
Thats when mom intervened. She came bearing gifts. Sweetly she told them that their
choices included certain death at the hands of their father
or they could do the
activity games in the shopping bag she dropped in their laps. She walked away.
The boys tore into that sack like Golden puppies into a Kong stuffed with liverwurst. Bags
of pretzels, disposable cameras, coloring books and playing cards gushed from that
cornucopia of childhood goodies like a geyser from Old Faithful.
This was a good thing.
Mind you, they were still boys.
Are we almost there yet?
How much minutes left?
Questions and protest still gave the boys opportunity to be, well, boys. But the worst of
the pandemonium was over.
I have this bizarre tendency to view dog training as a metaphor for life itself. Not much
in the way of human behavior escapes some direct correlation to dogs in my view. So I
thought about Michael and David and about why they reminded me so much of puppies. Then it
hit me.
Dad came along and told them what not to do. And that didnt function for more than a
few moments. Mom had a better idea. She showed the boys a new behavior they could do,
concurrently presenting them with a consequence if they failed to choose the new, and more
rewarding behavior she designed for them.
The parallel to our lives comes when helping dogs or puppies stop unwanted behavior. It is
effective to teach a dog a new behavior that is incompatible with his unwanted behavior.
It is less effective to simply correct a dog for doing the bad thing.
Take jumping on people. You can simply correct for it. But temptation remains. Plus, get
with the 21st Century already. We have dogs for the warm and fuzzies. We are
ever less likely to knee their dog off when the dog just wants to greet us. So instead of
battling the dog, why not teach him to sit and offer paw to solicit attention? He
cant do that and jump now can he? Plus its such an engaging trick that
its likely to win much more notice for the dog, and thus, becomes self-rewarding.
Dick Russell, a professional dog trainer in Louisiana, says he teaches the same sit
and give paw routine to space guarding dogs. A dog wont often sit and shake
and guard space from a child all at the same time. I handle this problem in a different
way. Using a gentle touch with the leash and collar, I teach the dog to move, and give up
any space humans want to take. Either way, youve taught the dog what TO do as much
as what NOT to do.
As for Michael and David, they played with their new toys for quite a while. I eyeballed
them periodically, however, waiting for the old behavior to reassert itself. I smile,
thinking about the dog training equipment nestled in my checked baggage. If only I could
do children, we could all retire to my own private island, where dogs run free and
children behave.
About The Author
Marc Goldberg is a dog trainer specializing in the rehabilitation of difficult dogs and
improving relationships. He is Vice President of the International Association of Canine
Professionals (IACP) and Editor of SafeHands Journal. The author also educates
professional dog trainers in his techniques. Visit him on the web at http://www.chicagodogtrainer.com
or http://www.dogtraininginchicago.com.
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